Conversation of Love and Marriage
Once upon a time, a student asks a teacher, “Why often people marry a different person then they fell in love with?”
The teacher said, “In order to answer
your question, go to the wheat field and choose the best wheat and come back.
But the rule is that you can go through them only once and cannot turn back to
pick.”
The sudent went to the field, went
through the first row, he saw one big wheat which he instantly liked, but he
wonders that maybe there is a bigger one further. Then he saw another bigger
one, but again he thought that maybe there is an even bigger one waiting for
him. Later, when he finished more than half of the wheat field, he started to
realize that the wheat is not as big as the ones he let go off, he started to
realize that he had missed the best one in the search of a bigger. So, he ended
up going back to the teacher with an empty hand just because he just wasn’t
able to forgive himself for letting go of the best wheat and described what
happened.
The teacher told him, “You kept
looking for a better one while letting go of the best one and later when you
realize that you have missed that, you can’t go back. This is the mistake often
made by people who fell in love and lost the best person they could have in
their life.”
So, the student said, “Does that mean,
one should never fall in love?”
The teacher replied, “No Dear, Anyone
can fall in love if they find a suitable person. But, once you truly fall in
love, you must never let go of that person due to your anger, ego or
comparisons with others.”
“How do they end up marrying someone
other than they loved?” the student asked curiously.
The teacher said, “In order to answer
your question, now go to the corn field and choose the biggest corn and come
back. But the rule is still the same as before, you can go through them only
once and cannot turn back to pick.”
The student went to the corn field,
this time he was careful to not to repeat the previous mistake. When he reached
to the middle of the field, he picked one medium corn that he felt satisfied
with and rushed back to the teacher. He described how he made a choice. The
teacher told him, “Well, this time you didn’t come empty handed. You looked for
one that is just nice, and you had put
your faith that this is the best one you can get. This is how one makes a
choice for marriage.”
The student stood confusedly. The
teacher asked, “What is bothering you now?”
The student then replied, “I’m
wondering which would’ve been better, marrying the person you love or loving
the person you marry.”
The teacher replied, “It’s very easy
to answer that. Only if you are willing to admit it to yourself. Life is like a
basket of fruits, Kid. Either you have to make a choice of eating the fruit you love
or be content with something that is healthy! Choose wisely, else you may have to
spend your life wondering…. What if.
As long as you stay true to
yourself and honest, you can’t go wrong with any of these two choices.” the teacher closes the class.
Adapted from Reader's Digest
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